Here are Prospective Queer Parents (PQP) free ads for people seeking parenting or known donor arrangements with other queer prospective parents. If you are interested in adding your free ad, please email ads@queerparents.org. Please include your geographic location (including your city), an ad title and a reply-to email address. You may include a photo file (png format preferred, gif or jpg accepted). Please be aware that posting an ad to this page is like posting it to a public bulletin board visible to people from anywhere on or perhaps also off the planet. Please also note that by making any use whatsoever of the ads on this page you are expressly denying any liability on the part of PQP or its organizers for any consequences of your use of these ads. We wish you the best of success in your parenting ventures!
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Our names are James (33 - French and Mexican 5' 7") and Joseph (30 German and Mexican 5' 6"). We both have Spanish/Latin blood in us but are fairy white for the most part. Yet, we do have beautiful dark hair and dreamy dark Latin eyes. We have been together for 6 1/2 years. We have one dog (cocker spaniel) named Lady Cher and 2 cats named Dutchess Fergie and Princess Di. Thus, we are the Queens of the house. We are now looking to bring children into our home too. What we are seeking is **one** of three options: 1.) A well rounded clean lady who is willing to be a surrogate mom for us. We will remain the child's legal parents 100% having full custody. However, we are more than willing to allow you to be a part of the child life since he/she will be made up of part of you. He/she will always know who their mother is or not. If you choose just to give us the gift of a family and be on your way...we understand that too. It is up to you. 2.) A second choice would be to adopt. If you have a child that you feel you could not raise. Then we will be more than willing to be the parents of that child. Thus, allowing you to also be a part of the child's life and growth if you choose. Again that will be totally up to the mother. However, we will have full control in the raising of the child and the mother will have to legally sign over all right to us. But again, we have no problem with the mother being in the child's life or ours. 3.) A third choice would be sharing 50/50 custody with a single or long-term Lesbian couple. We will all be a family with two dads and either one or two moms. Everything will be shared from the parents' names on the birth certificate to weekends to holidays. I know this can be done, because I have seen other families do it. Arrangements can be made in all aspects of the child's life. Such as school, the child will be with the set of parents that will best suit his/her needs and then in return the other set of parents will get the child on weekends and summer vacation. So, if you're a single or long-term lesbian couple...please consider this option...it can work! More about us, we are great guys. We never go out to bars or clubs. We rarely drink and don't do drugs or smoke. We are members of Metropolitan Community Church. Neither one of us are drama queens. We hardly ever argue. We are both totally out. I (Joseph) am currently seeking my BA in communications and James works as a GM for a retail store with a degree in Accounting. Moreover, we both have tons of love to give to our future child/children. We are now currently living in California, but plan on relocating to Portland, Oregon by years end. Yet, please do not let that discourage you from considering us to parent a child of yours. We have family all over such as: California, Oregon, Washington, Arizona, Nevada, Idaho, Texas (all), Minnesota, Louisiana, Florida and London England. We love to travel; thus, if you live in one of these states do not hesitate to contact us. It can work and we will make it happen! So, if you're looking to donate an egg or two, or wanting to adopt out your child to a loving gay couple, or your a single Lesbian/long-term Lesbian couple interested in sharing a child 50/50... please contact us. Our email address is: GayGuysWantABaby@aol.com
Thanks! James and Joe
PS When emailing us...please write which state you are from and a photo would be great too! Thanks!
[Submitted 12 December 2002 and posted 15 December 2002]
We are two loving, feminine and attractive females that have been together for eight years. We both possess college degrees and enjoy professional careers that provide us with economic security as well as flexibility for raising a healthy, happy child. We live close to loving, extended families with lots of nieces and nephews whom we love dearly.
We are seeking a donor who will respect our rights as the primary parents in raising our child, but we would not be opposed to someone that would like to serve as sort of an "uncle" figure with infrequent visits. This, of course, could be adjusted somewhat if we are all comfortable with each others morals and sense of responsibility concerning the welfare of the child. We would just like to take our time to visit through e-mail with some nice guys that would like to be considered. Please forward all e-mails to hopingforZoe@yahoo.com
[Submitted 12 December 2002 and posted 15 December 2002]
I've spent a great deal of time preparing myself to have children and am now ready to start. I am 34, quite healthy, and very deliberate about having a healthy lifestyle. I am interested in raising children (at least one, maybe more) with co-parents who are committed to fostering the humanist development of children while encouraging intellectual and spiritual growth, and the joy of laughter.
I have travelled widely and hope to assist my children in having some of the same experiences of the world that I have been able to have. I would like to co-parent with someone who values variety and difference, someone who feels it is important for a child to enjoy and appreciate the gifts of the world. Most important I want someone who agrees that it is essential for children (and adults ) to have fun and know love.
I prefer to parent with an African American, Latino or Southeast Asian Bi/Gay male who may or may not be a member of a couple. However, I am open to co-parenting with mixed race couples.
I have a busy lifestyle but my schedule will work around my children. Currently I live in Michigan but I intend to relocate after I have completed my PhD work.
If you are the least bit interested, please contact me at raihna1@netscape.net
[Submitted 23 April 2001 and posted on 1 June 2001]
Hello,
My name is Christopher and I want to become a known donor and be able to
visit my future offspring. I am 41 years old but because of the great
genes in my family everyone believes I am 27 to 32. I am 6 feet tall and
I have a solid, stocky, football player's build. I have brown eyes and
long dark brown wavy hair. I am a product of mixed race ancestry
(African-American, Irish, American Indian and also a trace from India),
so most people consider me to be a very goodlooking guy. I am a college
graduate and I work for a major airline so I am flexible to fly anywhere
in the world to donate sperm through artificial insemination. I am a
healthy man who is drug and disease free. I also consider myself to be
an intelligent, sensitive and caring individual who loves kids. I think
the ideal situation would be a single Lesbian or Lesbian couple of any
race, who does not mind a known donor and visits of the known Father
from time to time. Please email me if this ad sounds interesting and
workable to you. My email address is thewanderercemd@webtv.net.
Thank you,
Christopher
[Submitted on 9 Feb 2000 and posted on 20 Jan 2001.]
I am 6-1, mid forties, white, green eyes, non smoker, healthy. I desire to help a woman obtain a child. I do not have any children and I hope to find a woman who is willing to get pregnant using my sperm. I am willing to use AI. I would prefer a Natural Insemination but it is non-mandatory. Please contact me at ids0058@internet.com.mx as I really want to father a child and I would like for you to help me as I hope to help you.
[Submitted on 3 Mar 2000 and posted on 20 Jan 2001.]
You:
positive outlook, intelligent, at least ok-looking, probably working in some sort of creative field, financially secure enough not to be bothered by the possibility of not much in the way of financial child support in future years; could be single or in a relationship, but welcoming of my involvement in the children's upbringing and also definitely wanting at least two children [I have a view that children should grow up with at least one brother or sister.] preferably not into dogs or cats. You probably live either East or West Coast, or maybe Europe.
The Idea:
you would be the custodial parent of the children but I would get to visit for at least a couple of months of the year and as they get older the children would come to stay with me for roughly half of school vacations [assuming they wanted to]. In other words a ‘friendly divorce’ type of arrangement. I would make sure they had a good time and you would get a rest from constant parenting. I would want a say in their education - I would especially want them to get a good musical education from an early age. Obviously situations can change as time goes on and children's inclinations count for a lot but these are my broad-brush ideas. To be honest, I am not very good with children under about 7, but thereafter people say I relate well to them. Quite a few people have said 'you would make a good father'. It would be crucial that you and I would get on well together even though we didn't want to live together / be around one another for more than a couple of months of the year.
please e-mail me if you are at all interested to discuss this further, in complete confidence that I will exercise [and expect] total discretion and total confidentiality around these exchanges. Please write fully. Pix (to exchange) and full details about you / your ideas essential.
Johnny
e-mail: jonblane@hotmail.com.
[Submitted and posted 23 Feb 2003.]
We are a lesbian couple, together for 16 years and still in love on most days. We are established in a student kind of way, emotionally available, financially secure, homeowners. We are professionals from working class backgrounds and strive for balance between work, play, and daily obligations. We are sorta swanky, a tad traditional, and relish life. I am half Mexican American and my partner is a Nordic mix. My family and traditions have been very important to us and we would like to maintain the Hispanic lineage if possible. Both of our families are important to us and our child or children would grow up surrounded by love, cousins and family. We currently live in Portland, OR, but will relocate back to Northern CA as soon as I am done with my current (final) degree (1 year)? If you are interested in being part of a unique family of our joint creation please contact us at Olive13@aol.com.
[Submitted 07 Mar 1999, posted after update and verification 24 Mar 1999.]