Here are Prospective Queer Parents (PQP) free ads for people seeking parenting or known donor arrangements with other queer prospective parents. If you are interested in adding your free ad, please email email@example.com. Please include your geographic location (including your city), an ad title and a reply-to email address. You may include a photo file (png format preferred, gif or jpg accepted). Please be aware that posting an ad to this page is like posting it to a public bulletin board visible to people from anywhere on or perhaps also off the planet. Please also note that by making any use whatsoever of the ads on this page you are expressly denying any liability on the part of PQP or its organizers for any consequences of your use of these ads. We wish you the best of success in your parenting ventures!
Here is a list of the current ads (click on the one you want to jump to):
The family situation as it stands now:
I have an unorthodox family (two sisters, different mothers, one father, etc.) and I am very close with many of its tribe, most of whom live in Berkeley. They are qu supportive of my having a child and would be involved and helpful in the raising of the child. I also have close friends and a partner who intend to create family with me for the child.
I am looking for a known donor, with a range of involvement possible. I believe that you will be important to the child. I simply want to start this process very soon, and so I want to set up a situation in which I am legally protected-which will also mean that your responsibilities will be legally limited, though you are welcome to go beyond those limits. I believe it is in the child's best interest to know and love you and be known and loved by you, and that will be the guiding principle in my negotiations. I feel very inclusive and generous about creating another loving, unorthodox family. What I am not interested in is having a donor/ dad who wants a child but finds the mother inconvenient. I do not want someone whose hope is to divide the child and have it some of the time (think King Solomon's solution). I want the child to have one home-mine-but that will be a home into which you would be welcomed as a family member. This is not to say that the child could not also spend time at your house, visit you, etc., but that would have to grow naturally out of your relationship with the child and out of the child's expressed desires, not out of a custody agreement. I am not interested in creating a "divorce-like" situation. I am more interested in creating a warm, extended family community around the child.
More about me:
I am a published novelist and teacher (professor/ editor). I am a somewhat lapsed activist. (I still do some stuff, but I am not in the thick of organizing.) I am looking for a donor/ dad with progressive or radical, community-based politics. I should say that I am an odd mixture of non-conformist and . . . someone who is drawn to notions of the traditional by virtue of having grown up outside of it. I was raised atheist and have had to find my own way to a meaningful spirituality. I love to sing, to read, to interact with people, to go on walks, to dance, to write (sometimes: "A writer is someone for whom writing is harder than it is for other people."), to cook (vegetarian), to grow plants (a recently developed ability), to teach and encourage. I have traveled in the world quite a bit, much of it as a child and teenager. I have an Ivy League degree, for what it's worth (and it tends to be worth more than it should). I value learning and education and prefer when they happen simultaneously. I am technically probably bisexual, but I've been a lesbian for the past ten years. I should say that I have fairly radical notions about gender. Basically, I think the dual-gender system functions in this country much the way the two-party system does. Yes, it's "real" in that it very much dominates the way things are run, but no, it does not adequately account for most people-it is too limited. The question, "What are your politics?" might require a narrative answer, and the question, "What is your gender?" (or "What are your genders?") might also require a narrative answer. I will not impose any of my freaky, radical notions on the child (as if it were a political billboard), but neither will I assume that it will be gendered in a way that I can predict.
I am 5'8" tall, brown hair, hazel eyes, curvy, considered beautiful even by some who do not already love me. I am half-Jewish (on my father's side, but converted at age 11), half Euro-mutt. I am at the waning end of 33 years old.
I would prefer to do fresh insemination facilitated by a midwife. I would like to begin very soon. If any of what I've written strikes a chord, please contact me and we can talk. Thanks for reading this! firstname.lastname@example.org
[Submitted August 28th 2004]
I am a handsome, healthy, 44 yr old Welsh/Hispanic, and interested in having a child. I am open to and flexible about co-parenting arrangements and would love to help you achieve your goals for having a family. I would welcome an opportunity to have a biological child and would prefer to be a part of that child's life even if you and/or you & your partner were the primary caretaker. I seek a loving situation where honesty, love and open communication is key. I am very open to the family and parenting arrangements that you have indicated in your statement.
I was married for the past five years to a school teacher in San Francisco, who had a daughter age 6 when we got married. Although i was very much in love with my family and cared for them, unfortunately I never fully achieved my family and parenting goals, one of which was to have a natural child of my own. We had several miscarriages and were unsuccessful. My wife was 45 at the time, and due to her age we eventually gave up on the idea of us trying to have a child naturally. Although i was open to co-parenting arrangements then, and even proposed surrogacy, etc., egg donation, she was not inclined. I am now divorced.
I run a vocational consulting business and manage my late father's literary estate, and I live in the San Francisco/Sacramento area, where my business is located. I live in an apartment, with two dogs, and my parents live in the San Francisco area. My mom is Irish/Welsh/German, father is Mexican/American and step dad is Jewish/Irish. I graduated from St. John's college back East, and from law school at the Univ. Of San Francisco. I do not presently practice law.
My father was a well known author/lawyer/radical Chicano activist in the early 1970s, whose books are required reading at many universities in mexican american literature classes particularly (see ďRevolt of the Cockroach Peopleď). He is now deceased. Some of my fatherís relatives live in the Bay area, Modesto, and in Los Angeles. My fatherís literary works and papers are housed at the Univ. of Calif. Library at Santa Barbara. Managing his estate including publications, films and archival projects takes up part of my time and provides income to me.
My mother graduated from Wash. Univ. in St. Louis, MO, USA, is remarried, lives in the Bay area, is 73, and a wonderful mother. I have a very close and loving relationship with her. She is very understanding of and open to various ways for me to achieve my parenting goals. IN fact, during my recent marriage we discussed and my stepfather even offered to assist us in the egg donation procedure; my mother was also open to the idea of a surrogate. Co- parenting is something she also embraces.
I mention this only to demonstrate the family support I have. I have many friends in the Bay Area. On Fridays typically I meet a few schoolteacher friends of mine in San Francisco for dinner out. I play music, record music, and have a thirst for knowledge in general, and have a wide range of cultural and intellectual interests. I have traveled the world and my politics are progressive/Green. I've lived in New York city, LA, SF, and other places. I'm a Libra, very diplomatic, motivated/ambitious, exercise regularly, eat well, in very good physical shape. I love diner parties and other social events, but also value my alone time. I am determined to have a natural child of my own, and would love to find someone with similar interests. I am at home and comfortable around all persons, regardless of sexual orientation, and I have no preference as to the sexual orientation of my child's primary caretaker or caretakers. I would just love to be a part of the child's life, even if on a limited basis.
Physically: I am 5 11, 175 lbs., slim, light brown hair/eyes, good looks. I am a non-smoker, low blood pressure, and healthy-grandparents lived to 103, 93, 88, 81. I would be interested to communicate further with you, to travel to meet with you, provide references, introduce you to friends for references, meet with relatives, whatever you think is the best and the most helpful way to begin this journey of a lifetime. I am in the Bay area about once or twice during the week for my business, and the rest of the time I work out of my home office in Davis, where I have lived for 6 years now. Email: email@example.com. Please feel free to call me by telephone if you wish. I am very easy to get along with and would be happy to answer any questions and discuss all this further. Thank you. (415-412-1965, or 530-297-7781). -marco acosta
[Submitted October 4th 2004]
Hello! We have been in our loving relationship for 7 years now, and we have been married for 6 years. We were very good friends for 2 years before we became a family. We have 2 sons (7 and 10) from a previous relationship, and we long to expand our family. We live in our family home (which is 100% paid for), in a great neighborhood, near Balboa Park and Downtown San Diego. Both of our boys attend the local, very gay family friendly elementary school. We have our nursery painted and ready to go, we just need the baby!
I am a nurse by day, and stay-at-home mommy by night. I ran a family child care for 3 years, which I closed last summer to meet the needs of my family. I still hold my child care license and I am starting a babysitting co-op within the gay and lesbian parenting community here.
My partner is in upper retail management and advertising, and works mostly evenings/nights. She was the co-owner of the daycare I ran, and is fluent in ASL.
Please feel free to visit our family website at http://pages.ivillage.com/lnfrazee
We look forward to hearing from you!
[Submitted and posted on May 8th, 2004]
Are you interested in co-parenting a child (or two!) in the San Francisco Bay
Area? I am a gentle, nurturing, 41-year-old male prospective co-parent. I've been
doing part-time childcare for friends and participating in parenting groups and
activities for at least ten years. Sharing parenting responsibilities would give the
child a number of influences to learn and draw support from, as well as
creating a nurturing environment for the whole family. I love diversity and
healthy living. I am educated and my family supports my child raising plans. I
live in the Bernal Heights neighborhood and prefer an arrangement where all
parents live close by. I am currently developing a long-term relationship with
a really sweet guy. I have evolved my career to permit direct involvement
in child raising while remaining financially responsible. If you or a friend might
be interested, please contact Will at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Here is a photo:
[Submitted and posted May 7th, 2004]
I'm proceeding with an open mind and with as few constraints as possible on the situation in general or on the religion, ethnicity, geographic proximity, or other such considerations. While it would be nice to find an exact partner with whom to raise a child, I'm not deluded into believing that we get exactly what we want. It is more important to have children than no children at all. I sometimes get sad upon seeing a father playing with his child; or upon seeing the spark of understanding and wonder when teaching a child about the world. I get sad because I don't have these things.
Given the above, I am looking for a lesbian or lesbian couple to have a child or children with. I'm open to situations anywhere in the spectrum between known-donor and co-parenting . I was born in 1967, fit, in perfect health, employed, financially responsible, intelligent, and caring. I live and work in Mountain View. Although I work in Silicon Valley, I do not have a typical job in that my job is low-stress, good hours, and I can even sneak off to take care of things. (The point of mentioning this is that I either have or can make time to deal with parenting.)
You can learn more about me from my personal home page:
http://homepage.mac.com/pauljlucasYou can also send me e-mail from there.
[Submitted and posted after update and verification on May 7th, 2004.]
|42 yo professional gay Latin male looking for attractive and educated Latin/white female with whom to have a child. I am 5'7" 155 in very good shape and very healthy. I am cultured and also Ivy league-educated and work as a physician in the Bay Area. I am also financially stable. I am very much open to all types of arrangements but would prefer to be involved in the life of the child as much as possible. Email me at email@example.com.|
[Submitted and posted 10 Nov 2003.]
I'm looking for my Rupert Everett straight or gay.
I'm an attractive 25 year old swedish woman who recently moved to California. I know I have found the place I want to spend the rest of my life in and I'm ready to start a family with our without a husband. So I'm looking to become a mother trough AI. My ideal situation would be a man who wanted be a coparent but I'm financial and emotional stable to race a child by myself if necassary. If you are a gay male couple wanting a child this could be an oppertunity to help each other out.
If interested contact me and lets take this further. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
[Submitted and posted 1 Dec 2003.]
I am a 36 year old white gay professional male living in San Francisco. I am 6'3", 210, blonde hair and blue eyes, all American type. I have always wanted a family and am at that point in my life of wanting to share a piece of my life with a child. I am outgoing, reliable, generous, respectful, and very passionate about life and the people who are in it. I am a nonsmoker, no drugs, social drinker and enjoy the gym and outdoors. There is no history of alcohol/drug abuse, mental or other health problems in my family. I am financially secure and dependable. I am looking for a lesbian or lesbian couple to co-parent. Ideally, I would be involved but you would be the primary caretaker.
Email me at email@example.com.
[Submitted and posted 1 Dec 2003.]
I am a stable, well-adjusted and educated 33 year old masculine gay African American man who wants to be the best father ever! I come from a large family and enjoy being around kids. I have helped to raise some of my nieces and nephews and have developed a special bond with them, and now I would like to have that special bond with my own child/children.
I am looking for a women (bisexual or lesbian) who would be committed to co-parenting a stable, well-adjusted, and happy child (or two, or three!). As a child of a single parent home, I understand how important and beneficial it can be for a child to receive love, care, and support from two parents.
I am currently a graduate student working to become a Doctor, so I will be able to support my child/children financially as well as emotionally. I am drug and disease free, work out 3-4 times a week to keep in shape, and eat healthy "most" of the time.
You want to be a mother and I want to be a father so lets make both of our dreams come true! Ethnicity is not an issue for me, all I ask is that you are a stable, honest, loving and caring woman who is open to all the great joy this opportunity will bring. Contact me at: ChocReinTx@aol.com.
[Submitted and posted 21 Jan 2004.]
I am a single lesbian living in the San Diego North County area. I am seeking a donor/co-parent arrangement. I am open to many different types of arrangements, although I would like to be custodial parent. I would like to have full legal and physical custody of my child. The level of involvement is negotiable, of course, especially with the right man. I understand how important and beneficial it can be for a child to receive love and care from two parents. I am not seeking financial assistance, however, I wouldn't mind a financially stable counterpart, which definitely would help out. I have always had the dream of my child knowing who the father would be, however, I have just not found the right guy yet.
Ideally, I would like to find someone at least 6 feet tall and on the thin side. I dream of a handsome, muscular, athletic pussy-cat. I prefer someone of Hispanic/Spanish, Native American, Portuguese, mixed race, or Caucasian origin. I would like for my child to have dark hair, dark eyes and olive skin. I prefer someone who is professionally stable, finances not an issue, and is physically and emotionally healthy. I am hoping to find someone with a strong spiritual connection. You must be STD-free, no history of mental illness, alcohol/drug abuse, diabetes, and a nonsmoker.
My ideal situation would be to find someone who would be involved about 25 - 50% of the time. I would love to hear about you and some of your ideas about how much you want to be involved or not involved. Please share anything you would like. A picture of you gets a picture of me. If you are interested, please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Please, only those who are serious and sincere respond. I look forward to hearing from you.
[Submitted and posted May 7th, 2004.]
We are a queer couple (33 and 25 respectively) located in San Francisco. My partner is 33, Philipino, intelligent, and very friendly. He is interested in becoming a donor, via donor insemination, for a single woman or female couple. Ethnicity not an issue.
His objective in being a donor is to have some meaningful involvement in the child's life, be that as an "uncle," or something more akin to co-parenting. However the mother(s) would be the primary parents.
His career is in business management, and he does volunteer work for the SF GLBT Film Festival. He is a non-smoker, non-drinker, hiv-. If interested, email email@example.com
[Submitted and posted May 7th, 2004.]
|We are a recently married lesbian couple. We live at the beach in San Francisco. We enjoy music, animals, outdoors, movies and children. We are looking to meet a gay man who is interested in being a sperm donor. We are open to discussion of his family involvement with the child and our lives. He would be asked to sign an agreement relieving him of all parental rights or responsibilities. A medical history will be required. The partner getting pregnant is a 20 year old student and the non biological spouse is a successful government lawyer. We are trying to match the non biological mother's physical characteristics with the donor. Blonde, Blue eyes, and tall. Thank you for any referrals. E-Mail me at Lkmvvv@aol.com|
[Submitted and posted May 7th, 2004.]