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I am a very attractive 43-year old lesbian who is planning on becoming a mother. My partner and I are both loving, bright, sensitive individuals who are searching for the right person to donate his sperm. I have a PhD. in Clinical Psychology and I am searching for a professional, well-educated, healthy individual who is willing to be known to our child--not to be financially responsible or make decisions. We do want this person to be a part of the child's life to some degree. We would like this person to be Jewish and from a Eastern European background. We are willing to go through the sperm bank, yet want every opportunity for our child to really know their biological parents.
If you are interested please E-mail me at
JesseMDM@aol.com with a brief description of your interests so that we might be able to talk.
[Submitted 21 April and posted 22 April 2002]
I am 25-years-old and the divorced mother of a very animated 4-year-old boy. I am attractive, 5'3, 135 lbs, medium brown complexion and have shoulder length hair. I am a Black Hispanic female.
My career field is sales and marketing but I am supporting Operation Noble Eagle as a public affairs specialist in the Air National Guard. At some time in the near future, I hope to obtain a teaching certificate in special education instruction with a concentration on deaf and hard of hearing students.
I enjoy reading, doing volunteer work, writing (I've got lots of stories to tell!), dancing (although I am not very good at it) and boating. However, I must admit, that most of my "spare time" activities revolve around my son. Therefore, in reality, I spend a lot of time giving baths, wiping away tears, singing lullabies and cleaning dirty hands. More recently, I've graduated to chauffeur, tutor and even play time coordinator as our interests have grown into tae kwon do, music lessons and other assorted activities.
It's probably quite obvious that I relish being a Mommie and I look forward to expanding my family.
Three words to describe me: intelligent, adventurous and a good conversationalist.
I have a tendency toward liberal political views and have a "live and let live" attitude about life.
I am spiritual, believe in God but have not found a church that makes me feel completely comfortable. It seems to be a never-ending search.
I come from a small, middle-class family. I am the oldest of two children. We're a rambunctious lot, openly affectionate and generally, quite opinionated but loving.
I have never smoked nor experimented with drugs and rarely (special occasions only) consume alcohol. I am drug/disease free, willing and able to offer documented proof of my health status.
My son has a personality very close to mine. He's very outgoing, talkative and highly intelligent too. Did I mention he is cute as a button also?
My motivation for seeking a co-parent arrangement:
I've always envisioned myself as a mother. When I married, I was prepared to live out the American dream, complete with hubby, car, home with white picket fence, 2.5 children and a dog. Well, I divorced my husband (amicably and mutually agreed upon) before the dream was complete but I still hope to fulfill my maternal desires.
My little one is at the age where he speaks often of a sibling. I am seven years older than my brother and feel that children will develop a closer relationship, if there are fewer years in between. (I adore my brother, but there are many times when I feel he thinks of me as "the know-it- all" older sister, pesky at best, but not a friend.) I hope to adopt someday, we even completed a homestudy but I have yet to be matched with an arrangement that fit us.
I might remarry someday but it's not a goal or my main objective. Thus, I'd like to expand my family while I have no doubts about my fertility and I am young and active enough to enjoy my children.
I am looking for a Daddy (more than a donor) whom wants to co-parent. His level of involvement is negotiable but I want this child to know his/her father and I want him/her to know his love. However, you will not be obligated to contribute financially by means of a set monthly support payment.
Dad should be Caucasian, 30 or older, professional, at least 5'9", fit, attractive, educated (minimum of a B.A.), emotionally and financially stable. Any artistic abilities would be a plus. He should also be kind, intelligent and open-minded.
I am also hoping that Dad will serve as a surrogate father to the child I have (this does not refer to financial support). He does have a relationship with his father but quite honestly, I am looking for a man that can serve as a better role model.
Before attempting pregnancy, I would like to take six months to a year getting to know the person. In the end, I believe all parties would agree that this is a good plan.
As I re-read all of this, I realize I am trying to fill a tall order. I am open to suggestions or various degrees of the arrangement I described above. I live in the NYC-area and hope to find someone geographically close, a reasonable driving distance at least. But, I would consider relocating to certain areas of the country to facilitate this arrangement.
I am interested in replies from men whom are straight or gay. If gay and coupled, the relationship should be 5 years plus and both the biological father and his partner must be interested in this scenario, so as not to adversely disturb the dynamics of the relationship. Also, if gay, I could have a baby (surrogacy) for the two of you to raise also – another great option if you'd like to build a family but don't wish to adopt.
E-mail me at NJCoparent@aol.com for pics or more information. I can't wait to hear from you!
[Submitted and posted on 7 April 2002]