Here are Prospective Queer Parents (PQP) free ads for people seeking parenting or known donor arrangements with other queer prospective parents. If you are interested in adding your free ad, please email ads@queerparents.org. Please include your geographic location (including your city), an ad title and a reply-to email address. You may include a photo file (png format preferred, gif or jpg accepted). Please be aware that posting an ad to this page is like posting it to a public bulletin board visible to people from anywhere on or perhaps also off the planet. Please also note that by making any use whatsoever of the ads on this page you are expressly denying any liability on the part of PQP or its organizers for any consequences of your use of these ads. We wish you the best of success in your parenting ventures!
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Our names are James (33 - French and Mexican 5' 7") and Joseph (30 German and Mexican 5' 6"). We both have Spanish/Latin blood in us but are fairy white for the most part. Yet, we do have beautiful dark hair and dreamy dark Latin eyes. We have been together for 6 1/2 years. We have one dog (cocker spaniel) named Lady Cher and 2 cats named Dutchess Fergie and Princess Di. Thus, we are the Queens of the house. We are now looking to bring children into our home too. What we are seeking is **one** of three options: 1.) A well rounded clean lady who is willing to be a surrogate mom for us. We will remain the child's legal parents 100% having full custody. However, we are more than willing to allow you to be a part of the child life since he/she will be made up of part of you. He/she will always know who their mother is or not. If you choose just to give us the gift of a family and be on your way...we understand that too. It is up to you. 2.) A second choice would be to adopt. If you have a child that you feel you could not raise. Then we will be more than willing to be the parents of that child. Thus, allowing you to also be a part of the child's life and growth if you choose. Again that will be totally up to the mother. However, we will have full control in the raising of the child and the mother will have to legally sign over all right to us. But again, we have no problem with the mother being in the child's life or ours. 3.) A third choice would be sharing 50/50 custody with a single or long-term Lesbian couple. We will all be a family with two dads and either one or two moms. Everything will be shared from the parents' names on the birth certificate to weekends to holidays. I know this can be done, because I have seen other families do it. Arrangements can be made in all aspects of the child's life. Such as school, the child will be with the set of parents that will best suit his/her needs and then in return the other set of parents will get the child on weekends and summer vacation. So, if you're a single or long-term lesbian couple...please consider this option...it can work! More about us, we are great guys. We never go out to bars or clubs. We rarely drink and don't do drugs or smoke. We are members of Metropolitan Community Church. Neither one of us are drama queens. We hardly ever argue. We are both totally out. I (Joseph) am currently seeking my BA in communications and James works as a GM for a retail store with a degree in Accounting. Moreover, we both have tons of love to give to our future child/children. We are now currently living in California, but plan on relocating to Portland, Oregon by years end. Yet, please do not let that discourage you from considering us to parent a child of yours. We have family all over such as: California, Oregon, Washington, Arizona, Nevada, Idaho, Texas (all), Minnesota, Louisiana, Florida and London England. We love to travel; thus, if you live in one of these states do not hesitate to contact us. It can work and we will make it happen! So, if you're looking to donate an egg or two, or wanting to adopt out your child to a loving gay couple, or your a single Lesbian/long-term Lesbian couple interested in sharing a child 50/50... please contact us. Our email address is: GayGuysWantABaby@aol.com
Thanks! James and Joe
PS When emailing us...please write which state you are from and a photo would be great too! Thanks!
[Submitted 12 December 2002 and posted 15 December 2002]
Hi! Our names are Kisty and Brandi. We are a lesbian couple in Portland, Oregon and we are hoping to start a family. We are searching for a loving, stable, secure gay couple who would like to arrange a donor/surrogate relationship. We know firsthand the hardships that homosexual couples face when trying to bring a child into the world and we are hoping that together (with the right couple) we can help one another overcome these challenges.
We are looking for a drug/disease free man, involved in a committed relationship, who would be willing to donate for our first child. In exchange for the gift you would be giving us, we would appreciate your consideration as the first choice to surrogate your child. We believe that an arrangement such as this would have numerous benefits to both families. First, since both of our families face similar obstacles, and are unable to conceive our children without assistance, we all have an understanding of what an amazing gift we can give to one another. Secondly, if one or both families decide they would like to have additional families, the children would be genetically related and share the same medical and ethnic backgrounds. This could eliminate potentially serious complications later; with all children in each family sharing the same medical history, there is no need to keep up with which child runs a higher risk for asthma or diabetes etc.
Now please don't get us wrong, we aren't looking for a "father", "Dad" or co-parent for our child. And we hope you aren't seeking a "mother", "mom" or co-parent for yours. We are quite capable, willing, and able to provide all of the love, support and nurturing that our child/ren will need and are only interested in a reciprocating agreement with a couple who will be able to provide the same for their child/ren. We believe that the biological aspect of paternity in no way relates to who a child's true parents are. Our child would be ours both because of and inspite of your gift. We do not want you to be involved in our child/ren's lives in any way. In return, we recognize that your child/ren would be yours both because of and inspite of our gift. And we expect no involvement in their lives as well.
If you're interested in discussing this further or have any questions at all, please feel free to email us at waiting4ourbaby@yahoo.com.
Thank you for your time and consideration,
Kisty and Brandi
[Submitted and posted on 26 March 2002]
We are a lesbian couple, together for 16 years and still in love on most days. We are established in a student kind of way, emotionally available, financially secure, homeowners. We are professionals from working class backgrounds and strive for balance between work, play, and daily obligations. We are sorta swanky, a tad traditional, and relish life. I am half Mexican American and my partner is a Nordic mix. My family and traditions have been very important to us and we would like to maintain the Hispanic lineage if possible. Both of our families are important to us and our child or children would grow up surrounded by love, cousins and family. We currently live in Portland, OR, but will relocate back to Northern CA as soon as I am done with my current (final) degree (1 year)? If you are interested in being part of a unique family of our joint creation please contact us at Olive13@aol.com.
[Submitted 07 Mar 1999, posted after update and verification on 24 Mar 1999.]